Benefits of Forgiving Yourself

Learning to accept the things that we perceive as wrong can be a difficult task and very beneficial.

Some people have been brought up to accept that it is normal to feel guilty about their actions and that by doing so we will make everything seem alright within ourselves. Even though we might feel that we have a reason to make up for the choices we have made.

It is much more important for us to learn how to deal with perceived wrongs, in a way that frees us to go beyond the perceived wrong.

Through forgiveness we can gain understanding. Through that understanding we actually release ourselves from staying stuck on the event & continuing to feel bad; it is like an anchor holding a ship in place. Do you really want to stay anchored to the perceived wrong, reliving and re-feeling that perceived wrong over and over? Actually most people asked in a survey, almost 100% of them say No! Reliving this situation is no fun, they say. Then they add, but how do I stop it? It seems to just keep coming up, over and over again.

When we can look back at our past and really assess what has happened, we begin to realize that there are many aspects, conditions, circumstances & dimensions to any situation.

While feeling guilty might assuage our feelings at first, it is really only a short-term solution.

It is all too ironic that being hard on ourselves is the easy way out. Do you want to take the easy way out? Yes No (check box)

As we truly are able to gaze upon our lives through the lens of compassion, we will be able to see that there is much more to what we do and have done than we realize.

Perhaps we were simply trying to protect ourselves or others and did the best we could at the time!

Maybe we thought we had no other recourse and chose a solution in the heat of the moment!

Maybe there was a political decision that was made, even though we had the better product!

Once we can understand that dwelling in our negative feelings/failures will only make us feel worse, we will come to recognize that it is really only through forgiving ourselves & forgiving others that we can transform our feelings and truly heal ALL resentment we have about our past.

Giving ourselves permission to feel at peace with our past actions is one of the most positive steps we can take toward living a life free from regrets, disappointments, and guilt. The more we are able to remind ourselves that the true path to a peaceful mind and heart is through acceptance of every part of our lives and actions, the more harmony and inner joy we will experience in all aspects of our lives.